Why can’t I write a poem about you?

​                                For Jim Hutt

I’ve tried, over and over. Is it because, when 

I’m at the bottom of a well your hope blazes 

the dark? Is it because what I feel for you is 

deeper than the well? You flew to Pittsburgh 

when my mother died. We drove her ashes
 

to Cheyenne, planted her next to my dad in

the cemetery on Pershing Avenue. We called it 

The Cremains Tour. How you gloated when 

the young ticket taker in Omaha gave me the 

senior discount without my asking for it,

and charged you the regular price, though we’re 

the same age. In Colorado we watched a thunder 

storm roll over the prairie and knew it was my 

mother’s last breath. You’d witnessed her rages, 

knew how I found her drunk on the kitchen floor,
 

skirt ruffled over her hips, keening over my dead 

father whom she hated/loved. You knew I needed 

you on that drive. Or is it because you flew from 

San Francisco to Pittsburgh when Judy was horribly 

ill. I’d spend the day at the hospital, come home,
 

and find that you’d cooked dinner and made the 

kitchen so clean it gleamed. Sixty years ago, your 

locker was next to mine at St. Mary’s High. The other 

good Catholic boys teased and mocked you. You say 

that I was nice to you, that I was kind. I can’t remember
 

that time. But you have been my friend ever since. 

Who else could I now razz about his golf obsession?

Who else could I accuse of playing with his putter

and compulsively washing his balls? Who else but

you could call me a fuckwit with hilarious impunity?

What other person in my life phones me just as I’ve

begun to phone him? How many times have we done

that? Are these the reasons I can’t write a poem about you? 

Is it because you are a man that I love—will love beyond 

the world? Is it because you are the very definition of There?